This piece is published on Her View From Home. Click here to read it.
Hey guys, just wanna share my latest article that was published at Her View From Home. I want to share my heart about it first, though, as it’s pretty raw and a sensitive topic not often talked about.
In New Zealand, we often hear the statistic ‘1 in 4’ in relation to pregnancy loss. It means that 1 in 4 pregnancies will end in loss. That’s a significant amount of babies who were longed and prayed for, who never had the opportunity to walk this earth. And that’s a significant amount of parents, whose hearts are left to grieve, often silently.
I have a few statistics in my life, too. I’m the ‘3 in 4’. I have not experienced a loss. I don’t know what it’s like to grieve for a child you so longed for. I’ve had 2 pregnancies that have resulted in 2 beautiful children. But I also have siblings, aunties, uncles, nieces and nephews who bypassed earth and went straight to heaven.
In New Zealand, we also talk about the ‘silent majority’. The group of people who are not outspoken and who are considered to constitute a majority. As humans, we take our cue from others about what is culturally and socially acceptable. Which often means we remain silent. We live in a culture that is largely apathetic about so many things.
I wrote this article because I don’t want to be part of the silent majority. I wrote this because it was burning on my heart. And I’m learning that when something is burning on my heart to say, I just have to say it.
I make prints for parents who are the ‘1 in 4’. Many times, I have designed prints for the same set of parents, who have suffered loss multiple times. I’m passionate about providing a way to honour these babies, and acknowledge the grief these parents face.
I don’t know if I have a right to care. But I do. I don’t know if I can help anyone who has suffered loss. But I’ll try. I do hope, though, that I can stir up the ‘silent majority’. Maybe I could stir up people to step out of apathy and love on those who are going through their darkest hour. And if you are the ‘1 in 4’, please know that you are so much more than a statistic. If you need someone to talk to or a shoulder to sob on, I am available. Don’t suffer alone.
Anyways, that’s my heart. Please, have a read at the link below: